Proverbs 31: 10-31 has been titled, “The Wife of a Noble Character.” Why not the title, “The Fool’s Wife?” or “The Wise Wife”? Depending on what kind of man you are, determines the kind of spouse you will end up with. That’s why Jesus said that we should think of others before ourselves. This thinking, directly influences the relationships we have. If you are self-centred, inevitably you will end up by yourself!
The first stanza reads, “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?” Years ago, my husband declared that he is the man he is because of me. I wasn’t sure how to take that but he meant it to be a compliment. He feels that he is a good man because he doesn’t go out drinking and partying, like other husbands do. The impact that each person in the relationship has on the other is huge. Do you want a good spouse? Then be a good spouse. Think about your behaviour. If I do this, how will it affect the person I love the most, now and later? If you always think of your spouse first, it will give you a better chance of having the kind of spouse that Proverbs 31 speaks about. Of course, you cannot control the other person, so you need to be wise when you are choosing a partner to spend the rest of your life with. Choose someone who genuinely cares for others. One, who is a noble character.
Some years ago, I heard a sermon about the issue of sex when dating. The primary reason, not to have premarital sex is that your point of view becomes jaded. Sex causes a euphoria that makes you overlook the other person’s faults. This euphoria can cause you to make poor decisions.
Keep watch. Be sober. Let nothing make you stumble. Evaluate what you want your life to look like in 10 years and make sure that your choice of mate’s ideas are similar and compatible with your vision. Choosing a mate should be one of the top five greatest things you will ever do. Do not base it on physical appearance. Look to the heart of a person like God does. Become a noble character so that your companion will feel free to be all that they can be. Which will bring you good, all the days of your life.