Proverbs 31: 10-31 has been titled, “The Wife of a Noble Character.”    Why not the title, “The Fool’s Wife?” or “The Wise Wife”?   Depending on what kind of man you are, determines the kind of spouse you will end up with.   That’s why Jesus said that we should think of others before ourselves.   This thinking, directly influences the relationships we have. If you are self-centred, inevitably you will end up by yourself!

The first stanza reads, “Who can find a virtuous and capable wife?”   Years ago, my husband declared that he is the man he is because of me.   I wasn’t sure how to take that but he meant it to be a compliment.   He feels that he is a good man because he doesn’t go out drinking and partying, like other husbands do.   The impact that each person in the relationship has on the other is huge.   Do you want a good spouse? Then be a good spouse. Think about your behaviour.   If I do this, how will it affect the person I love the most, now and later?   If you always think of your spouse first, it will give you a better chance of having the kind of spouse that Proverbs 31 speaks about.   Of course, you cannot control the other person, so you need to be wise when you are choosing a partner to spend the rest of your life with.   Choose someone who genuinely cares for others. One, who is a noble character.

Some years ago, I heard a sermon about the issue of sex when dating.   The primary reason, not to have premarital sex is that your point of view becomes jaded.   Sex causes a euphoria that makes you overlook the other person’s faults.   This euphoria can cause you to make poor decisions.

Keep watch. Be sober. Let nothing make you stumble.   Evaluate what you want your life to look like in 10 years and make sure that your choice of mate’s ideas are similar and compatible with your vision. Choosing a mate should be one of the top five greatest things you will ever do.   Do not base it on physical appearance. Look to the heart of a person like God does.   Become a noble character so that your companion will feel free to be all that they can be. Which will bring you good, all the days of your life.





There is a war going on in my house.  Even being the bundle of joy that I am, my influence seems to be limited over the conflict that exists 75% of the time under my own roof.  Why is it so difficult for human beings to live in harmony?  The world doesn’t like to think about God versus the Devil or Angels versus Demons but there is a war going on around us all the time in the unseen world and it seems to me that the devil’s team is winning.  Is it because people just don’t care?  Certainly, we don’t enjoy being unkind to each other?  Justification of one’s ridiculous defensive behaviour is on the rise.  “He did this to me so I had every reason to do that to him.”  Really??  I’ve heard many times at funerals, attendants say, “At least he went to a better place.”   If he was unkind everyday of his life, why would he have been granted admission into the better place?   You may not choose to be born and you may not choose to die but everything outside of that is for you to decide.  Please choose kindness or to walk away.  God will be proud of you for taking the higher ground.  Heaven is the place for people who want to live where happiness exists because of the standard of goodness.  Some good things that we can work toward achieving a little of now and look forward to more of in the future are love that never fades, loyalty, honor, respect, joy, peace, wellness and much more.  Determine to fight with goodness!